Most parents hate it when you tell them how-to raise their kids, but I like to be honest so here’s top ten tips in my opinion on how-to raise a child great! This is ordered from the best tip to the least best tip. Once again, in my opinion.
1. Don’t physically abuse your kid.
This one should be obvious, but if you’re that oblivious then let me explain it to you..YOU CAN BE MAKING THEIR LIFE MISERABLE. Maybe even more miserable than it already is. And most kids are easily traumatized so it can haunt them for the rest of their lives. After all, they’re not made of steel. Plus, it’s probably against the law where you live to abuse a kid.
2. Don’t neglect your kid.
Another obvious one, but once again I’m gonna explain it anyways for the oblivious people. Now, I don’t mean not buying your kid a new toy they had a tantrum for. Remember, neglect is lacking what you need not what you want. Even not bringing them to a doctor if they really need it is neglect. Plus, it’s probably against the law where you live again. If they can move out already though then that’s not neglect even if they can’t afford their own food.
3. Don’t emotionally abuse your kid.
This one is way less obvious because most people just consider this just parenting. But if you’re constantly belittling your kid for no good reason then that’s a sign of emotional abuse. Another sign of emotional abuse is telling your kids things like you wish they were never born or saying they’re really ugly. Words can hurt too. Not to mention, it’s probably against the law where you live. It’s a lot harder for people to detect emotional abuse though to get the kid the help they need.
4. Don’t spoil them.
Giving kids unnecessarily expensive things or things that are not needed can give your child unrealistic expectations constantly. These sorts of expectations can carry on through the rest of their lives which will most likely interfere with the way they learn. They’ll most likely have trouble learning how-to properly communicate with people such as them being too demanding and rude when communicating with others to even having trouble learning the most basic tasks. This will probably make it hard for them to get a job. They may also feel embarrassed once they realize how much they depend on other people. A few kids might even hate you for thinking you rather make it up to them by gifts than actually having a proper conversation. Not only will these kids probably hate you, but others around you who witness their antics may hate the spoilt kid and the ones responsible for spoiling them so much. This can make it hard to have a good relationship with not only the spoilt kid, but others around you too. All these tantrums can lead to a great amount of stress which may also affect your physical well-beings. Trust me, having to try to survive in the real world is hard enough so do you really want to add that much stress in your lives? Instead, show them the ropes on becoming more mature and then letting them handle most things on their own like baking and doing chores. But people usually want somebody to talk to for help at times even if your kid pretends to be very brave to make you proud. So remember to tell them that if they ever need to talk to someone they can come to you. You’ll be sure to raise a much more nice independent kid this way.
5. Motivate their good choices.
You don’t just have to discipline all their bad choices to motivate good choices forcefully. You can also give them reasons why to make good choices like a lesson in health class about protection, the risks of smoking and ect. Trust me, it means a lot more coming from the parents because it shows they care more.
6. Don’t play favorites.
Sure, it might make the more favored kids love you more, but at what price? I mean, it can make the most favored kids spoiled brats towards EVERYONE and they may feel like they have to act a certain way for you to keep loving them more. As for the least favorite, they may try being like the more favored kids at first to see if you’ll love them more. They may also very likely doubt themselves for the greater good constantly. But they may give up and just end up hating you. They might even seek revenge. Even if you don’t admit who’s the favorite it’s still pretty obvious if you buy more gifts or more expensive gifts for the most favored kids and take them pretty much anywhere they want. Then you just disregard the least favorite’s feelings.
7. Don’t be so chill with EVERYTHING they do.
Not having enough rules can teach kids to rebel. This is because they usually want your attention so they might start smoking, drinking alcohol and ect. just to get your attention. They might also become spoiled if you’re cool with them buying whatever they want. Other kids might make their own rules. But all in all, they are most likely to wish they had more rules. I know you probably just don’t want them to hate you for being strict, but being this chill can actually make them hate you too for causing family problems. Also, if you like this tip then check this link out: https://t.co/RVBIcUE4cz as it shares more useful, alike methods.
8. Don’t be so conservative.
Constantly telling them they’re ugly in black clothes and then that they’re only pretty or handsome in dresses or tuxedos and ect. is rude. And being homophobic, transphobic, racist and ect. makes you a complete jerk. They’ll probably feel like they have nobody to confide in so they’ll probably try to hide secrets from you by whatever means possible. And they may feel like you don’t care much about them at all. Or they’ll try to block out their true selves so they may never discover who they really are. And if you do find out don’t disown them. And if you think kicking them out will teach them their lesson then you’re sadly mistaken. Society is already as hard as it is when it comes to LGBT+ as they are usually victims of bullying, rape and they may even be killed. So you’ll just be adding on top of all that. Plus, its probably against the law where you live. OR you may avoid this much conflict as they may turn out to be a complete jerk like you since that’s the way you raised them.
9. Don’t be too strict.
I mean they’ll probably feel that you’re raising them more like a slave or just a dog than a kid. Sure, you may feel like you’re raising them as a perfect disciplined kid, but they may actually end up growing up wanting to rebel and they may do so when they have that chance or may try fighting back to feel free from their parent’s wrath. Plus, being too strict can make them hate you and fear you.
10. Don’t ignore your kids so much.
This may be hard not to do due to work, but they may feel like they hardly know you if you’re away constantly or always on your phone. They may also feel like they’re not important to you much at all. And they may end up growing up too fast.
Follow these tips and you’ll be well on your way on raising a good, happy kid! Pat on the back to you if you already follow these tips for a job well done.