3 BEST SITES FOR EMOTIONAL SUPPORT

Sometimes leaning on people for support is alright. Providing support for others not only can make people feel better about themselves, but you too will probably feel great about yourself for doing good deeds. Because of these reasons, I made a personally chosen list of the 3 BEST SITES FOR EMOTIONAL SUPPORT. This list is no particular order because it depends on which site you think best suits you.

1. https://www.7cups.com/member/

7 Cups is filled with many group support chat rooms to choose from. Moderators are often present in these chat rooms to make sure the topic stays at bay. You can also optionally chat privately with trained members, but I often found the waiting period to chat with these people takes quite a bit of time. Basically, there are definitely many positions in this site where you can listen to others problems. These positions require you to signup though unlike where you get help as a guest. Guests have pretty limited options though. You even have the chance to chat with a licensed therapist which they think suits you best based on your needs. This site also goes one step further by proving steps to your personal growth. These steps mostly only involve breathing techniques to help you relax though. Even so, it’s a great way to help you meditate. All in all, even if you find people in this site not offering much help at all then you can simply mute them so you can at least give this site a second chance for help. Remember, suicidal and homicidal people are not welcome in this site though because those are recommended more serious help.


2. http://blahtherapy.com

This site offers a very quick way to chat with someone who listens to you comes more often than not. And if you’re in the helping mood then you can be the listener instead. You can even chat with a licensed therapist if they feel your needs qualify for it. If you do, you can chat with a licensed therapist for free for a week, but then you have to pay. Yet, the pay should be affordable. In most of this site, you’ll remain completely anonymous so there’s not much of taking a while to signup or login at all to get help as quick as possible! Suicidal and homicidal people are not recommended this site at all though.  

3. https://childline.org.uk

Professional help on MANY different issues you’re facing is offered in this site. You can play games which are aimed for a younger audience to hopefully, bring joy to their lives. People on this site will also be provided a phone number you can call or text. You can also chat online with them. You may even remain completely anonymous. But remember, each licensed therapist on this site should write down notes on the information you provide to them to help improve you each time you chat with them. You can chat with one specific licensed therapist or many different licensed therapists at different times. All in all, as great as this site seems, only young people in the UK have access to it. 

7 REASONS WHY I HATE LIVING IN MEXICO

I’ve lived in Mexico for quite a few years so I have been through different experiences here which I wish someone had told me about because knowing beforehand could of came in handy. Luckily, I organized a list for you of the 7 REASONS WHY I HATE LIVING IN MEXICO in no particular order. This list can help you if you’re deciding on living in or visting Mexico or not. Or maybe you simply want to understand why so many people here are desperate enough to illegally cross the border to enter the USA to try to get a better life. 

1. Climate.                                                          

It can get hot and humid here. Don’t get me wrong, it can get very chilly here too. There’s also normally very heavy thunderstorms here. Quite a bit of change in weather around here so it’s pretty unpredictable.

2. Bugs and insects.                                            

Due to the climate in Mexico, many bugs and insects reside here. Some maybe something you’ve never seen before and know about. From large spiders to some odd wasps you haven’t seen before. Others that most know are common such as scorpions, ticks, black widows, earwigs, cockroaches, bees and flies. One less common in Mexico, but more known are brown recluses. 

3. Usually, high crime rates.                     

Mexico doesn’t stress laws enough. You see, it’s common to get confused at night as to whether you heard a firecracker or a gunshot. Seeing lots of drunk people and smokers at night is also very common as Mexico is known for constantly having fiestas AKA parties which also means lots of noise normally too. Even underage drinking and smoking is very common due to most stores not caring if someone underage buys these sorts of things. It’s also common for children to vandalize others properties. Going on moving vehicles can get troublesome too as people usually don’t bother to put on their seatbelts or rather ride on the back of a pickup truck which can get dangerous. Another very bad thing that most people know about Mexico is the reputation of Mexican Mafias around here, but they’re normally no threat as long as you don’t mess with their business with illegal drugs. If you do, you probably will get tortured and maybe even killed. Hitman in Mexico are less commonly talked about, but they are normally here too. Many rich people send them here to kill those who have been messing with their businesses.

4. Police and the army.                                        

It’s common to see the SWAT team and army troopers in Mexico due to the usually high crime levels here. Police usually don’t actually jail real bad criminals here for that much time at all though, some work, huh? They usually beat the heck out of them for a day and then release them. They much rather take the innocent people away to shoot and kill them. This causes many people in Mexico much distress and some parents don’t even feel comfortable with letting their children go outside without them. Crossing the border of Mexico is another issue that is normally very nerve-wrecking as police are known to commit various crimes there even if you are legal such as getting shot for no good reason or raped by them. 

5. Many conservatives.                                     

Even though Mexico has more liberals now than before it still carries many conservatives. You’re very likely to be scolded or given mean, disgusted glares if you do something like kiss someone on the lips of the same sex.

6. Doctors.                                                       

Doctors usually make you way worse than how you came in. Most of their prescriptions and recommendations don’t work at all or they give you medications that are not appropriate for your age. As for their tools, they are normally not sanitary at all. You probably won’t just be very physically hurt though, but usually traumatized too. Even deaths are common due to doctor’s lack of good work. That’s when you realize those horror stories about doctors can come true. This applies to all sorts of different doctors such as dentists, surgeons and ect. This is normally due to wanting to get you worse so you can come back for a fixable solution to get more money from you. Sometimes it’s due to a not very good education in the subject. They still get payed a great amount of money though. The most decent doctors to find around here are usually not very bright, but not that bad either.

7. Driving can be troublesome.                            

It can get difficult to drive due to very bumpy roads normally. Also, you probably will have to drive around large crowds of people. Another troublesome thing about driving is that you might have to try to avoid horses, cows, dogs and ect. crossing the roads. Drunk people driving and lousy driving is also very common.

Overall, Mexico isn’t that bad compared to a few other countries, but Mexico is definitely not my favorite country so I hope to have that chance of being able to move back to the USA.

Best 8 Methods to Get What You Want

Whether it’s a relationship or a snack I listed the Best 8 Methods to Get What You Want in no particular order. 

1.  Ask for something bigger than what you actually want then tell them never mind and what you really want. This method will probably work as they will much rather agree to a favor that isn’t that big.

2. Mirror their physical actions while asking them the favor. Not to the point where you get creepy though. Just mirror their actions enough to make them think that they want what you want which will probably increase them agreeing to what you want. 

3. Get at least another person to help you try and convince the person to do you a favor. They’ll have more reasons to agree to what you want then and not want to disappoint more people.

4. Try and get the person you’re trying to convince you to do the favor by convincing them in a quiet, private place so you can both focus and to feel more calm with less hustle and bustle. So remember, when you try and convince them don’t yell at them because our emotions can get in the way of what we are really trying to communicate at times. Also, give them constructive criticism instead of just flat out offending them. And be sure to try and convince them with a stern voice to get your point across. It also helps a lot to give them good, solid reasons for them to get you what you want. 

5. Show them your emotions to let them see how much this affects you and how passionate you really are for this to gulit-trip them. Don’t have a whole tantrum about it though because that will probably just annoy them so they’ll probably just wanna get away from you. Plus, there are other ways to express your emotions like turning your emotions into any form of art. 

6. If what you want is someone to stop bothering you so much then read on. If somebody is bothering you so much that it’s illegal and you want them to stop then it’s time to get the police involved. Make sure to get proof first such as a video of all their illegal actions. This may scare them with a police warning or even get them locked away.

7. If what you want is someone to stop bothering you then read on once again. Try ignoring them by cutting off all contact via social media, e-mail and ect. Try your best to ignore them in person too. They might stop annoying you this way because you don’t give them a reaction. 

8. Make a deal with them. This method will surely make them give you what you want since they get a slice of the cake too if you will. 

Dear Alcohol

​Dear alcohol,

Why must have you taken members of my family from me? You make them act pretty differently and not in a very good way. Especially my dad who you seem to keep taking more and more of everyday. He gets way more mad when he drinks a lot of you so he doesn’t hesitate to hurt me and my family anymore. Even when we do nothing wrong he still hurts us. I learned to take his constant belittling eventually though or else he’ll hurt me more. Sometimes I think I deserve his punishments though. After all, he seems to usually only drink you at every mistake I make. It’s probably to forget I was ever born. I don’t blame him though because I wish I never existed either. He seems to love you much more than me and family. At least, that’s what he tells me. I understand that too. I remember when he loved us more when I was much younger. I even remember being upset when he left for work, but now I’m honestly a bit afraid of him when he drinks you. I think I’m more afraid for him getting hurt because of you than me and my family. I mean, I remember him drinking alcohol then going for a drive when my mom and him fought. I also remember when I woke up early in the morning due to my dad screaming out in pain. My mom had to call 911 because my dad usually never likes to show his pain so it must have been serious. Turns out he had uclers on his gallbladder and a swollen gallbladder so surgeons had to surgically remove his gallbladder. This happened to my dad because of you, alcohol. I remember being upset and worried about him for many days until he felt much better. One of my classmates asked me what was wrong since I looked down those days, but I refused to make them worry too. My sister never cared much about my dad though, but my mom was so worried that she was crying. I remember many times I tried to cheer her up because of my dad. At least my dad changed his opinion on you for a bit, alcohol. It’s a shame that this didn’t last for very long and his addiction to you actually got way worse. My sister then decided to lead the same path as my dad of alcohol addiction. My mom will wail and go out on the streets at midnight searching for my sister when she is drunk at times. People make fun of us because of my sister’s antics. They say it’s our fault she’s like this. That we could of done something to stop her, but it’s pretty hard to do that as she’ll still go outside and drink under lock and key. I still think it’s ALL of my fault she drinks you. Why must I be such an embarrassment!? I completely understand why my family tells me this. For that reason, it makes sense they take out their anger about family problems on me. I still tried talking to my dad and sister about you though. I tried changing their minds, but they didn’t listen. I forgive my dad and my sister of their alcohol addiction though because I know it’s hard to get rid of. I don’t forgive you though alcohol. 

                                                                                                         A son and a brother of alcoholics, 

                                                   Frankie 

TOP 10 TIPS ON RAISING A GOOD, HAPPY CHILD BY A TEEN 

Most parents hate it when you tell them how-to raise their kids, but I like to be honest so here’s top ten tips in my opinion on how-to raise a child great! This is ordered from the best tip to the least best tip. Once again, in my opinion.

1. Don’t physically abuse your kid.                

This one should be obvious, but if you’re that oblivious then let me explain it to you..YOU CAN BE MAKING THEIR LIFE MISERABLE. Maybe even more miserable than it already is. And most kids are easily traumatized so it can haunt them for the rest of their lives. After all, they’re not made of steel. Plus, it’s probably against the law where you live to abuse a kid.

2. Don’t neglect your kid.                         

Another obvious one, but once again I’m gonna explain it anyways for the oblivious people. Now, I don’t mean not buying your kid a new toy they had a tantrum for. Remember, neglect is lacking what you need not what you want. Even not bringing them to a doctor if they really need it is neglect. Plus, it’s probably against the law where you live again. If they can move out already though then that’s not neglect even if they can’t afford their own food. 

3. Don’t emotionally abuse your kid.            

This one is way less obvious because most people just consider this just parenting. But if you’re constantly belittling your kid for no good reason then that’s a sign of emotional abuse. Another sign of emotional abuse is telling your kids things like you wish they were never born or saying they’re really ugly. Words can hurt too. Not to mention, it’s probably against the law where you live. It’s a lot harder for people to detect emotional abuse though to get the kid the help they need. 

4. Don’t spoil them.                                     

Giving kids unnecessarily expensive things or things that are not needed can give your child unrealistic expectations constantly. These sorts of expectations can carry on through the rest of their lives which will most likely interfere with the way they learn. They’ll most likely have trouble learning how-to properly communicate with people such as them being too demanding and rude when communicating with others to even having trouble learning the most basic tasks. This will probably make it hard for them to get a job. They may also feel embarrassed once they realize how much they depend on other people. A few kids might even hate you for thinking you rather make it up to them by gifts than actually having a proper conversation. Not only will these kids probably hate you, but others around you who witness their antics may hate the spoilt kid and the ones responsible for spoiling them so much. This can make it hard to have a good relationship with not only the spoilt kid, but others around you too. All these tantrums can lead to a great amount of stress which may also affect your physical well-beings. Trust me, having to try to survive in the real world is hard enough so do you really want to add that much stress in your lives? Instead, show them the ropes on becoming more mature and then letting them handle most things on their own like baking and doing chores. But people usually want somebody to talk to for help at times even if your kid pretends to be very brave to make you proud. So remember to tell them that if they ever need to talk to someone they can come to you. You’ll be sure to raise a much more nice independent kid this way.

5. Motivate their good choices.                       

You don’t just have to discipline all their bad choices to motivate good choices forcefully. You can also give them reasons why to make good choices like a lesson in health class about protection, the risks of smoking and ect. Trust me, it means a lot more coming from the parents because it shows they care more.

6. Don’t play favorites.                                              

Sure, it might make the more favored kids love you more, but at what price? I mean, it can make the most favored kids spoiled brats towards EVERYONE and they may feel like they have to act a certain way for you to keep loving them more. As for the least favorite, they may try being like the more favored kids at first to see if you’ll love them more. They may also very likely doubt themselves for the greater good constantly. But they may give up and just end up hating you. They might even seek revenge. Even if you don’t admit who’s the favorite it’s still pretty obvious if you buy more gifts or more expensive gifts for the most favored kids and take them pretty much anywhere they want. Then you just disregard the least favorite’s feelings.

7. Don’t be so chill with EVERYTHING they do.

Not having enough rules can teach kids to rebel. This is because they usually want your attention so they might start smoking, drinking alcohol and ect. just to get your attention. They might also become spoiled if you’re cool with them buying whatever they want. Other kids might make their own rules. But all in all, they are most likely to wish they had more rules. I know you probably just don’t want them to hate you for being strict, but being this chill can actually make them hate you too for causing family problems. Also, if you like this tip then check this link out: https://t.co/RVBIcUE4cz as it shares more useful, alike methods. 

8. Don’t be so conservative.                

Constantly telling them they’re ugly in black clothes and then that they’re only pretty or handsome in dresses or tuxedos and ect. is rude. And being homophobic, transphobic, racist and ect. makes you a complete jerk. They’ll probably feel like they have nobody to confide in so they’ll probably try to hide secrets from you by whatever means possible. And they may feel like you don’t care much about them at all. Or they’ll try to block out their true selves so they may never discover who they really are. And if you do find out don’t disown them. And if you think kicking them out will teach them their lesson then you’re sadly mistaken. Society is already as hard as it is when it comes to LGBT+ as they are usually victims of bullying, rape and they may even be killed. So you’ll just be adding on top of all that. Plus, its probably against the law where you live. OR you may avoid this much conflict as they may turn out to be a complete jerk like you since that’s the way you raised them. 

9. Don’t be too strict.                                               

I mean they’ll probably feel that you’re raising them more like a slave or just a dog than a kid. Sure, you may feel like you’re raising them as a perfect disciplined kid, but they may actually end up growing up wanting to rebel and they may do so when they have that chance or may try fighting back to feel free from their parent’s wrath. Plus, being too strict can make them hate you and fear you. 

10. Don’t ignore your kids so much.    

This may be hard not to do due to work, but they may feel like they hardly know you if you’re away constantly or always on your phone. They may also feel like they’re not important to you much at all. And they may end up growing up too fast. 

Follow these tips and you’ll be well on your way on raising a good, happy kid! Pat on the back to you if you already follow these tips for a job well done.